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When I decided to go part-time with Skirt! in order to work at home more and focus solely on the writing/creative side, I didn’t expect to be consumed by a totally different side project. But life continues to surprise me with what comes out of its piñata — from a late life love affair to jumping into politics feet first. A friend and I tired ourselves out with bitching about how difficult it is for women to run and win an office in South Carolina. We have  ONE woman in our state senate, for instance, and one of the most powerful boards in our state — the Medical University of South Carolina — has ZERO women. Oh wait, they used to have one woman, but our female governor replaced her with yet another white male. Just as she ousted Wall Street financier Darla Moore from the University of SC board of trustees, despite her experience and national reputation, despite the Business School being named for her and despite her pledge of $70 million to USC since 1998. And she replaced her with — surprise! — another white guy who donated to her campaign. That leaves the USC board with one remaining woman. So it’s not just the good old boys who are the problem; it’s the lack of moral and ethical leadership that keeps us stuck in the bad old days. And don’t even get me started about the legislator who asked a female candidate for the Public Service Commission (a paid position) what her child care situation was in the screening interview. And no, none of the male candidates were asked that question. Project XX is right now working to have more women appointed/elected to state boards and commissions in order to reflect our 51% female population. Politics in this state is a dirty, dirty business. I’m not an extrovert and I have no political experience — both of which make me feel like a piece of meat being thrown in a lion’s den when I spend the day at the SC State Assembly. So sometimes when I’m working on XX at night after a day of also working on Skirt!, I want to say “screw it,” but I believe in the saying that if women don’t have a seat at the table, they’ll be an item on the menu. And I’m tired of not having a seat at the grownups’ table.

3 Responses to ““Nobody Puts Baby in the Corner””

  1. V-Grrrl says:

    Progress and regression come in fits and starts. While gays have finally gained some ground and respect, women seem to have been set back, especially in the South. Good for you for noticing, making noise, and demanding action in SC!

  2. nikki says:

    Thanks! We’ll see how it goes.

  3. Laura says:

    Just read your post and want to send you loads of encouragement. I was dismayed that Mark Sanford won in the special election, and your post just adds to my horror.

    Not sure how I can support your cause as I live in SF, CA, but I did graduate from USC and used to live in Charleston. I’ll be on the lookout for news of your organization and its successes.

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